Thank you everyone for the replies, I really thought I was the weird parent for adressing this to the teacher and such, but I have every right to make sure my girl feels at least a bit better. Besides that it can not be good for their schoolwork if they fight during language class or math class.

I know it's just a guy thing and such, however they are very competitive call eachother names and Aranka knows WHY they do it I've explained a couple of times that boys like to behave like that in front of girls to make themselves look even better. But it just doesnt feel right in her eyes. She's a little know it all lady, and she surely lets herself be heard at the actuall moment when it happens but she still feels sad about the situation, and cries about it at nights.

Tammy I've asked their moms a few times if they noticed anything or heard the boys about it, but they both wave it of as boy things. They both feel Aranka needs to grow up and get voer it....hmmm she's turning 7 next week, whats to grow over at this moment she's to young to realise it entirly.

Mind you I do have a boy has well but he wasnt that obsesive at all!

I do not mind her being friends with both boys, they are both cute guys with their own little sweet ways and they are both adoring her so I would never forbid her to play with them.

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Carin, I had a similar situation here -- not a "love" triangle, but my daughter has 2 "best friends" and it's crazy how much they end up hurting each others' feelings! It's not intentional -- they really all like each other and are good friends, but so many class activities have a "partner" and with three of them, someone is ALWAYS left out or if two of them have a playdate, the other one feels bad. It just goes on and on and I hate hearing about it every day. Last year, we moms talked about it and decided to have a talk with our kids to try to tell them that with three people, there are gonna be times that they aren't always going to be able to do everything together and to try to deal with it and not take it so personally. I'm sorry that you aren't able to get the other moms to see the problem with your DD and her friends -- it really helps if you can go to them first and then work on it as a team. Anyhow, I feel your pain -- it's a tough situation, but one that will probably eventually work itself -- friendship is still so fluid at those ages.

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WOW! Now that would really frustrate me...I'm so sorry you have to deal with things like this that should be really simple to handle.
It sounds like you have very immature/insensitive parents to deal with. I'm sorry.
Wrong for them to tell you to tell your child to grow up...please that is so uncalled for. But now I see the boys act out what they learn and see at home. So let's talk about growing up.
Sorry Carin. I had no idea you had already spoke with the parents before speaking to the boys.

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Hi Carin,

I'm completely amazed that "any parent" feels it's "ok" for their "children to fight". I'm puzzled why they feel "you did anything wrong" and/or you should "let them be".

I'm also wondering why the mother is upset about your "chat" with her son instead of "encouraging him" to use that energy in his "school work".

I also can't believe the teacher isn't noticing anything is happening as if they are all at a table there certainly has to be some noise going on.

I would speak with your daugther to see how she feels about being moved. She's probably formed a bond with the other girl that sits with her. If she doesn't want to move then she may have to tolerant them or speak with the principal about "separating" one of the "boys". Why should she be penalize because of their behavior. I know the other parents probably will not like it but if one of them is separated then that will "cut down" on the fighting and also they probably will get more work done at the table.

I can identify with you having an incompetent teacher. It sounds like she is just doing enough to get by.

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