Hi Jana!
I have been using flylady for about 5 years now. At first I was overwhelmed with the e-mails too..until I took Marla's advice..... DELETE them. They are not actually meant to be read - at least not the reminders, all you need to do is read the subject line and see if you have done that, if not... then get up and do it!
After a while, you will start devolping your own routine for how things get done at your house, and you will have already done them
Hope this helps some!